Are You the Cause... or Just Living at the Effect?

Are You the Cause... or Just Living at the Effect?

(Why Your Future Self is Begging You to Read This)

Ever catch yourself thinking:
“If my partner just supported me more, THEN I could finally relax.”
“If my kids would just stop bickering, THEN I wouldn’t feel so anxious.”
Or my personal favorite:
“If life would just calm the hell down, THEN I could finally work on me.”

Friend, let me gently call this what it is:
👉 Living at the effect of everything around you.

The reason you feel broken is because you’re just stuck in a pattern.

We’re taught to believe that life happens to us.
But what if life was happening from us?

What you’re vibrating now, today, becomes the cause of tomorrow. That makes you want to choose more wisely what you put out into the universe, doesn’t it?

Here’s the breakdown:

When you’re at effect, you live in reaction mode. Everything is happening to you.
When you step into cause, you create with intention. The world around you is happening from you, because of you. Which means you have the power to change it if it doesn’t look right, if it feels off or sounds unpleasant.

It’s the difference between saying “They made me feel this way” and realizing…
Nah. I felt that way because of something inside me. That ‘something’ could be an overplayed old thought, a feeling you’re clinging to or a past event you’ve not let go of yet.

And knowing that is the key to unlocking the doors for real transformation.

How to Take Back Your Power in Real Time

Try this short exercise on for a second.

Take a moment and think of a time recently where you said (or thought):

“He/She/That made me feel __.”

Now reframe it:

“When happened, I interpreted it as , and I felt __.”

See the shift? Feel the difference?
Your emotions aren’t bad or wrong—but they are yours.
You get to own them. Understand them. And decide what they mean. No one else gets to do that for you.

It’s a Ripple Effect (and It Matters More Than You Think)

Here’s where it gets juicy:

The energy you’re in right now—the way you think, speak, respond, believe—is actively shaping what you’ll experience tomorrow.

Every time you choose to stay at cause (owning your space, being aware of your thoughts and intentional with your actions), you’re planting seeds for future freedom—emotionally, financially, relationally, all of it.

Today’s vibe becomes tomorrow’s reality…and you get to shape it.

So when you say,
💥 “I’m choosing to respond differently.”
💥 “I’m not giving my power away to this situation.”
💥 “I’m creating a new story about who I am…”

…your future self throws a damn party in your honor.

This is Living The Wilder Way … and It’s Not Passive

The Wilder Way isn’t about letting life dictate who you are.
It’s about choosing—again and again—to show up as the creator, the decider, the powerful-as-hell version of you who knows:

“I don’t have to wait for the world to change before I do.”
“I am at cause. I get to make things happen.”

🍃 Before You Go …

Take the time to read this again. Let this idea soak in. Go though the exercise as many times as you need.

Ask yourself:

Where have I been living at the effect and giving my power away?
What would shift if I stepped into cause right now?

🌿 And if this hit you in the gut (in the best possible way), send it to a friend or share your thoughts with me at letsconnect@heatherboers.com. It’s time to normalize wild-hearted women taking their power back—one bold choice at a time. 💛

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